Same Gender Attraction: 
Make Your Own Decision

This page is dedicated to those who may be confused about what the world is telling them about same gender attraction and what they feel deep within them. It is for those who experience unwanted same sex attraction.

No resources as to what the world is saying are given here. They are easily found by listening to the news and looking on the internet. A short list of that side of things is given below. The other side is what is harder to find and there is a lot of backlash against it. 

It is important to discern truth. You must dig for it and listen closely to your heart to decide what is right. I am not telling you what to do and one has to be careful what is said in this day and age. This information is given out of love, but there are those who will claim that it is out of hate. I strongly encourage you to research, pray, and make your own decisions carefully.

What the World is Saying about Same Gender Attraction

Here are some of the things the world is saying:

  • You are born with these feelings.
  • It is genetic.
  • It is your nature.
  • There are no predictors for becoming "gay" or "lesbian."
  • There is nothing you can do about it.
  • The real reason there is so much depression and suicidal tendencies for those with ssa is because people are discriminatory, not accepting of them and not loving them.
  • You need to embrace these feelings.
  • You are shamed because you are gay or lesbian.
  • There is nothing wrong with acting on these feelings.
  • Reparative therapy is harmful.
  • Someone with ssa should never be counseled on being "straight."

What if I Feel that Same Gender Attraction is not my True Nature?

This is the side that is harder to find resources for. I have included resources that I feel are excellent and tell the truth.

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What Science Shows

The real truth that comes out in scientific studies and that comes out in actual experience for those who put in the effort is actually in direct opposition to what the world is saying. 

  • You are not "born" this way.
  • There is no "gay" or "lesbian" gene. It may be possible that there is a pre-disposition due to a gene or epigenetics, but there has been no genetic basis found.
  • It is not your true nature.
  • There are predictors for gender atypical behavior.
  • Same gender attractions are most often trauma-based.
  • It is possible to lessen or get rid of same gender attraction feelings.
  • Authentic, Caring, Re-integrative therapy is not harmful.  Like therapy for any reason it is possible that there may be harmful therapies out there and this is not what is being referred to. Do your research!
  • When the underlying issues causing the attractions are addressed those attractions start to spontaneously go away.
  • Rates of mental illness, physical health problems, substance abuse in those with same gender attraction show little or no difference based on how accepting a society is perceived to be.
  • For those who choose to live a homosexual lifestyle there is a greater risk of depression, substance abuse, anxiety, suicidal tendencies and other behavioral problems as well as serious diseases.

Note to those who have same gender attraction and disagree with what is written:

Why are you afraid to ask yourself why you have these attractions? Why are you afraid to look inward? Refer to the following articles:

      -  Avoiding Feeling Our Emotions

      -  Avoiding Emotional Healing

Therapy Choices

Because of the agenda of powerful activists and organizations with a lot of money behind them and who want to restrict choice, laws have been passed in some states prohibiting therapists from doing re-integrative therapy for same gender attraction. For those who wish to work on this and who live in states or countries where those kinds of laws have passed, consider going to therapy and working on the underlying issues (listed below) without telling a therapist what the full goal is. This will protect therapists who would be willing to do re-integrative therapy, but who legally are prohibited from doing so.

Of course you can always work on things yourself through forgiveness or by learning emotional healing techniques and applying them to yourself. I, of course, also recommend working with energy healing practitioners. Consider scheduling sessions. I believe energy healing can accelerate the process. The underlying issues listed below are great areas to work on. Working on these underlying issues will help in many areas of life as well. 

Possible Issues:

  • Shame of male/female self
  • Gender Inferiority
  • Father Relationship
  • Mother Relationship
  • Peer Relationship
  • Lack of Approval
  • Lack of Affection
  • Lack of Affirmation
  • Body Shame
  • Incidents of Peer Shame/Bullying/Abuse
  • Incidents of Sexual Abuse
  • Emotional Abandonment
  • Dark Spirits (in particular of the opposite gender)
  • Wounded
  • Pain
  • Anger
  • Grief
  • Loss
  • Anxiety
  • Despair
  • Desperation
  • Loneliness
  • Rejection/Fear of Rejection
  • Lack of Self-esteem
  • Powerless
  • Inability to live up to own/other's expectations
  • Preventing/blocking from being in an assertive state
  • False Self


  • Need for Approval
  • Need for Affection
  • Need for Affirmation
  • Unlovable
  • Unforgivable
  • Less than
  • Weak
  • Unwanted
  • Not good enough
  • Unworthy
  • Worthless
  • A victim
  • Not masculine/feminine enough
  • Not a real man/woman
  • Intimidated by Men/Women
  • Trapped by issue
  • Fear of Men/Women
  • "Need" to Compare
  • "Need" to hold onto these feelings
  • Disconnected/Detached from self
  • Not in body
  • Addictive/Obsessive Thoughts about ...

Last Thoughts

Do not allow those who have no desire to change to restrict your choice to change if that is what you want to do. It is their choice to keep those feelings and act on them if they so choose, but it is your fundamental right to choose to do otherwise even if laws try to restrict that right. They are feeling threatened in some way and as a result are trying to force their beliefs on everyone else. You make the choice as to what you believe and what to do about it. Blessings and love to you.

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Disclaimer:  The information provided here is for educational purposes only, and is not intended as diagnosis, treatment or prescription for any disease.  The decision to use, or not to use, any of this information is the sole responsibility of the reader. Please consult with a licensed health care practitioner if you are dealing with a serious disease or illness.

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